gay men can call women gorgeous and beautiful and no one bats an eye. but a lesbian says she thinks a man is nice to look at and suddenly every one is picking apart her identity because our society is dead set on women investing their time and energy in men.
people will comb through for any shred of evidence that a woman might be attracted to men and use that against her, to prove that desiring men in an innate part of her.
your identity is your business. who you want to be with, what feels right to you is your business. you get to decide what is important to you and what parts of your experience you want to keep and what you want to leave behind.
you can be a lesbian if you want to.
Asian/Pacific lesbians marching in the San Francisco pride parade, 1987. Photographer: Cathy Cade.
Shout-out to all my fellow Asian wlw out there. You’re fucking awesome and super beautiful and I think you need to hear that more often.
holy :( what happened to my dear old tumblr when i was gone. where did the lovely commenting format go. oh
